Now he lives in California and i live in Wyoming. he ignored me the entire pregnancy and wasnt even present for the birth despite me offering a place to stay for as long as he needed. My child is 8 months old now and the one times hes seen him was when he was 5 months old and i had to pay for any means to get him here i had to pay to get him home. he has never paid for so much as a single diaper either. my mother has been the one helping me the entire time. i am disabled and my son has been under her care all of his life as well (we live with her so he sees her everyday and has become as attached to her as he is to me, she was the one who cut his umbilical cord, shes the ones who has played “the father part”) and he wants to take him away from his security to never be seen again. not only this but i have a daughter involved from a previous relationship (father is deceased) she is 4 and i have made it very clear i do not want my children seperated.
furthermore, I am trying to go to school and become a nurse practitioner and plan on staying in wyoming while i do that. i have offered plenty of times for his father to continue visiting and have explained several situations in which i cannot leave the state, including one of me being subpoena’d to court in the near future for an abuse case involving one of my family members. however last night he held no bar in telling me if i did not let him take his son to california for a month he would take me to court for custody. i have explained that i do not want to be more than a few hours drive from my son, especially since i dont have a car of my own and hes so young. if something were to happen i would have a day and half drive with no way to do it. but he has threatened to take my child away if i don”t comply with everything he wants. i have been dealing with depression and i am also trying to get that under control. i also, very well known to him, have been making plans to move to california when i get a chance to transfer my school and this court situation is resolved. however, he says my feelings have nothing to do with my son and that i’m being selfish about this. i want us to get along, but need to know if i’m in the wrong here and if there is any course of action for what hes threatening. i even have proof of these threats as he texted them to me and i locked them to my phone. does anyone have advice?

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