I’m Pretty Sure I Messed Up My 1st Semester Of College, How To Deal With Parents?

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So here’s my story…
I was supposed 2 get my liscense so I could drive myself to college but unfortunatley I failed my road test 3 times
It’s been EXTREMLEY difficult for me 2 get 2 school, I have had to have people drive me a lot
I’ve missed a few days, I know I’m going to pass all of my classes, but I’m pretty sure the grades aren’t going to be so great
I’m in a private school and the tuition is $15,000 for one semester
I feel terrible but because of circumstances, I know I didn’t do well
I plan on going to a community college in the spring b/c it’s cheaper and I can get my nursing degree faster
How can I deal with my parents without them freaking out on me?
I know once I get my license and get everything else together I will do well in school, this is something that I really want to do

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  1. AJ_let's on November 1, 2009 2:45 am

    How to deal with them? Just tell them. Tell them EVERYTHING. They’ll understand. Before you take your driving test go to a driving school for lessons. That’ll help calm your nerves and pass.
    Back in 1978 I cost my dad $8000 for six credits. (That’s about $30,000 in today’s money.) I fell in love with a girl and didn’t focus on any studies. I was always trying to find a way to get home (I was 150 miles away from home back then and didn’t have a car… most families only had one or maybe two cars back then, certainly not spare cars for all the kids). There were no jobs on campus for non-commuter students, so I boxed. We had intramural leagues and I got a cut of what people bet on me. This was great until the end of the semester when no one would fight me, so I had to go up in weight classes. Let’s see… so I could get train fare and a little cash to take my fiancee (yes, I was stupid and asked her to marry me when I was 17, just because I thought I’d lose her) out to a movie most weekends. What I SHOULD have been doing was studying, or at least doing homework. Worse, I broke my elbow a few weeks into my second semester and got addicted to codeine. Of course this happened just after refunds for incomplete work ended.
    I came clean to my dad after I got home. He was furious, but he did forgive me.

  2. Future Citizen of Forvik on November 1, 2009 3:13 am

    Do you know how many people have messed up there first semester of college? I did and what you have to realize is that you can’t control how they will react to what you tell them, but you should trust that they will give you support. If you at least passed your classes that is not too bad. It sounds like you have a plan to get things worked out and move on with your life. It is not like you were partying all the time and not going. Just learn to drive and wham it will all be over before you blink twice. Try to just tell them really fast when they are alone and give them a chance to absorb the news.

  3. Jared on November 1, 2009 3:24 am

    Parents will be more understanding than you expect.

  4. LB on November 1, 2009 3:50 am

    Tell them the truth and offer to pay them back (I’m assuming they paid the tuition) then get a job and work your way through community college.
    Basically you need to let them know that you’re not as irresponsible as this semester makes you seem.
    If you failed the road test 3 times you need driving lessons. Nothing to be ashamed of but you’re doing something seriously wrong to fail 3 times.

  5. mrskerli on November 1, 2009 4:43 am

    I would think that offering to pay them back for the money you wasted (any classes that you completely failed)… would probably be a good start to soften the blow of how things went this semester.

  6. corryglo on November 1, 2009 5:07 am

    First of all don’t even tell them. Its not their business. When they do find out you need to act mature. This is your business and not theirs. Tell them you slipped and you are aware of it. You have a plan to do better in the future. Thank them for their concern. This is your first chance to be independent and to let your parents know that you are responsible for your own self now.

  7. Gray on November 1, 2009 5:21 am

    Unfortunately, if your parents are anything like mine, they need physical evidence of you improving, and seeing you working on it isn’t enough.
    This means, get your license, get your application completed and ensure you get an information packet. Even then, I’m sure they won’t understand right away and will lose their temper at first, but you must try to convincingly reason with them.
    Hope your luck is better than mine.

  8. Grumble on November 1, 2009 5:49 am

    If you just sit them down, in a mature fashion, and explain to them what is going on they should understand, assuming they are reasonable parents. Just let them know what your plans are that way they aren’t left in the dark and they should respect the fact that you’re mature enough to approach the situation like this. But as far as the driving goes… g/l with that.

  9. LOVEISTH on November 1, 2009 6:15 am

    Get your act together. Get a plan with short-term, attainable goals – put them on paper – then plan to STICK WITH IT. When you go to your parents with a (written) plan, they may be less perterbed. Don’t lie to yourself or them. Search yourself FIRST, then be truthful with YOU about what you are honestly willing to do, then ask for the resources you need to accomplish the mission.
    You’ve got a lot of excuses, rationalization and self will going on. I see it because I’ve done it too :-) But trust me, if you go to your parents with the line of problems and no solutions that I see above, they’re gonna see straight through you. Where there’s a will, there’s a way. If YOUR will is in line with your highest good then it will work out well and your parents will be glad to help you. Otherwise, you’ll be met with resistance.
    Now go be a nurse! And don’t drive on my street, please :-) Just playin…

  10. Eldwin K on November 1, 2009 7:03 am

    If your parents don’t mind paying for more driving lessons then do it. What’s making you fail the test? It’s probably because you’re nervous. I know in New York you are allowed to change testing locations. If your parents has their own car, just borrow it and drive around for a few hours. School wise I completely understand. I believe most students don’t do their best during the first year of college. I didn’t, but now I’m a senior and my grades improved. When your doing something new and for the first time it’s hard not to mess up a bit. By the way you have your friends and family to support you. hope this helps.

  11. Steve is cool on November 1, 2009 7:24 am

    Your parents pay fifteen thousand dollars a semester for college, but they can’t find a way for you to get to school? The best way to deal with parents is to tell them exactly what you said in your post. Not a lot of people do well there first semester of college, you shouldn’t worry about it too much.

  12. Dina K on November 1, 2009 7:47 am

    Not having a drivers license is no excuse. There are trains, buses, etc… All it means is you have to get up extra early to make sure you get to school on time.
    Ur parents are going to freak out on you and they have reason to.
    You don’t sound very responsible at all. In fact, I don’t think you even belong in college or as a nurse. Nursing have to pay VERY CLOSE attention to details, have to ANTICIPATE problems to ensure that problems never arise.
    You are so immature you can’t pass your dirving test, you can’t get yourself to school on time and you can’t get good grades.
    YOU SHOULD NOT BE A NURSE because you are so irresponsible you will end up killing someone – which will cause you to go to prison for a very long time.

  13. briley_c on November 1, 2009 8:13 am

    if you cant pass a driving test, how can you realistically do well in college? driving tests are basic, designed to be a little challenging for a 16 yr old.
    if you want to do it, just focus

  14. Sergio on November 1, 2009 8:47 am

    Just dont tell your parents your grades. Just let them know that you passed all your classes but that you think tuition is outrageous so you’d rather take the smart route to education and go to a CC and then transfer into another school. It really is the smartest way to get an education. Unless you get accepted to an ivy league or something. BTW you are very pretty. get in contact with me i’ll give you some more advice. I’m a first year college student as well. Colandres2005@yahoo.com

  15. Dana ? on November 1, 2009 9:15 am

    Explain to them why you won’t get the grades you could have earned.Immediately tell them that you are considering transferring to a more affordable school.I know many people in your situation.It must suck going from a private school to a community college. You should have done things the other way around . Thats what im doing.You’ll be fine .If you have understanding parents you shouldn’t worry much.They will definately be mad but they will get over it sooner or later.Good luck.

  16. Hane.Lov on November 1, 2009 10:10 am

    oh boy!

  17. Eric on November 1, 2009 10:17 am

    just let them know, the sooner you tell them then you sooner you will get it out of the way, remember, this is only your first semester, I’m a 3rd year student and i failed ALL my science classes this semester (biology, chemistry, earth science, and physics II), my mom said she didn’t care beacuse this was only one semester and it basically wouldn’t affect me getting a job in the future, and she knows i hate science (i’m a fashion business and design major). Your parents will probably get upset but by next semester they won’t care. Hope things work out, oh and by the way… I run a modeling agency if ur interest in modeling, you’d have to move to San Antonio though :)

  18. Single but like a sweet girl on November 1, 2009 11:00 am

    when it comes to college semesters all you can do is start working hard for now on out and tell your parents the truth that it was new to you and you got involved in the fun and lost track of the studies but you promise you will work harder at it. it worked for me

  19. cutie pie on November 1, 2009 11:08 am

    Explain them ! sometimes telling the truth works better than just lying or creating something to say because they could find out you were lying.

  20. Ryan K on November 1, 2009 11:54 am

    tell ur parents this and they might not b so gay and ur hot




 

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