I’m in love with a wonderful woman of God but she does not feel the same way, or at least I don’t think she does. We are basically best friends. We see each other maybe 4 to 5 days out of a week. We’re both in college working on our education for the medical field. Shes attending Nursing school and I’m working on my BS in Psychology and then off to grad school for a Masters in fam/Marriage counseling. We’ve known each other for about 2 years or so. We met each other through a friend from church. I’m the crazy outgoing type who loves making people laugh while she can be more shy and laid back but still a lot of fun.We have soooo much in common its actually scary and we can both admit that. I think why I get along with her so well is based on that very fact..She pretty much completes me but we still have our issues that need fixed. We both really love the Lord and try to keep our friendship more veered towards him than anything else. We still see movies n such but also read scripture together or just pray. Lately we have been arguing more. Shes so stubborn sometimes but I am too. 2 days ago I went into the emergency room for abdominal pains later finding out I had kidney stones. It was painful and I was tired from being on Morphine and two other pain medications all morning, but shes been asking me if I’m upset a lot and I keep saying no, I’m just tired and out of it…but she doesn’t believe me for some reason. I told her I may be a little on edge from the hospital n stuff but I still feel bad because she thinks I’m mad at her or something. I’m not really mad at her tho….I wasn’t real impressed tho when she kind of spent most of her time txting some high school girls she met while I was with her the other day. I mean…I’m happy she made some new friends n all…But I didn’t drive 65 miles to watch her txt…but anyways…I might have acted the same way had I made some new friends..I dunno…I just feel like I annoy her. I try not too…I’m really good at giving people advice and helping in any way…but with her…it seems I just annoy her when I say anything “positive”…My other problem is that she takes me for granted. I think because we spend so much time together…Shes gotten used to me being around…and so shes forgotten what her life would be like without me. I know I should step back and let her go for a while…But it’s just so hard too. I love being around her…Her heart is so amazing and shes so fun to be around. We’re best friends and I think it would be hard for anyone to walk away from one. The hardest part of our relationship that I had face thus far was when she told me she liked some guy from New Mexico..I was like..wow..awesome..I didn’t show my discomfort and I told her not to fear dating…but that maybe it wasn’t a good idea since he wasn’t Christian..I think that’s when I realized how much I loved her..not “liked” her. We txt each other every night. We say gnight to each other 4 or 5 times and we have even managed to sneak in the “I love you” and “i love you too’s” . I’m just not sure our love is equal. I think I’m still at the “friend” stage while I see her as being more. Sometimes I question our friendship…I asked a friend of mine about a week ago what the difference in our relationship would be had we been dating….He didn’t know and I simply said…The only difference would maybe be kissing…cuddling…just the intimacy aspect…The emotional side to our relationship seems deeper than just a friendship..but that might be my over analytical personality. Some of her flaws include her misunderstanding of who God is. She thinks that in order to have a good relationship with God, you have to stay single for 4 years. She fears dating…She liked me first..She told me over the phone she did and pretty much asked me out…I said no at the time because I didn’t really know her…So my problem is that I am in love with her but can’t say anything to her because like most insecure women, she will simply come to the conclusion that I may not “be the one” and because of that…all walls must be thrown up to protect herself and to throw me out on the street fending for myself. She has to stay single because in dating me, that takes too much focus off the Lord (don’t know why) and thus, a relationship is not a practical possibility. My question is however; if she doesn’t learn how to focus in relationships now, how will do it she when gets in one 4 years from now? I don’t think waiting 4 years will do much for her. It may get her closer to God but she’ll still have the same immaturity that she had 4 years earlier. I guess my point is that in solving a problem, it must be dealt with head on; should everyone run from their insecurities and fears, nothing would ever be accomplished or learned. I love listening to some people say…”Well the Lord will show you who the one is”…I agree…but in our inability to hear the Lord 100% every time, there still stands that 50/50 chance that this pe

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