I have always regretted breaking up with a boyfriend in 1995. We had dated for 2.5 years and were engaged. He really loved me, but got out of the marines while I was still in college. He ended up moving 1500 miles away, but wanted me to move with him.
Fast forward and I am now a very successful nurse practitioner. I am also still attractive. I have never forgotten him. In March, I looked him up and called him. We talked on the phone, he is married with 3 kids. I had a convention to go to in Louisiana, so he asked me to drive over to Houston after my conference and meet his family. So I did (shock & awe).
It was a little uncomfortable at first, but after a couple of beers it was fine. His wife reminds me of…..ME. She looks a lot like me, however is quite a bit heavier than any of the women he was ever attracted to. He has really changed physically as well. I would say he has put on about 75 pounds, is half bald, unemployed, etc.
Even though he had changed so much physically, I still felt a sense of warmth when I looked at him and was so surprised to still see that he cared about me after all of these years.
The only regret I really have is that while I know that seeing and talking to him put my “what if” feelings (mostly) behind me, I think that seeing me may have disrupted his life.
Since then, he has called me several times and I have the feeling that he has some regrets as well and he has even made references to me possibly moving to Houston. I did not expect him to have those types of feeling after all this time. Especially since he has such a beautiful family that appears to be stable.
I don’t want to cause him pain or trouble. I am not sure that we can maintain a close friendship, as he wants. Any feedback? The advice I have received on this board before has always been so kind. Thanks in advance! Ash

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